If you have already sought to understand the meaning of codependency, you have found that just learning about it does not in itself bring relief, and you are just beginning to understand that there is another side of you inside, crying to get out. Inside, there is the spark of a strong healthy person waiting for you to give it the love and encouragement it needs to emerge. You can learn to love and care about yourself.
Developing a healthy life style takes serious and dedicated commitment on your part. the first toward doing so is to learn about surrendering and being true to yourself. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by reading and trying some of the principles set down for you in this book.
Take the first step:
STEP 1: We admitted we were powerless (over alcohol or substances), that our life had become unmanageable. What does the first step mean? Look behind the words. They mean that being codependent is not your fault. Well, you already knew that, didn't you? Still isn't there a feeling of failure, of confusion, of shame that tells you "Maybe, if I had been a better person, a more educated, a stronger person, or a better child, a more deserving child...if I had more opportunities, better parents, more money...then maybe my partner would not act as he or she does.